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the trickster

I once had a friend that believed God told her to write a letter to her ex and give it to him. The letter, words given to her DIRECTLY from God, would show the ex the error of his ways and he would return to her. She spoke of an encounter she had with God during prayer and was convinced this letter would change everything between her and the ex. 

While it sounded a little extreme, I believed her and supported her.

She asked me to drive her to the town the ex lived in and I said yes. When we got there, I encouraged her to go to the door. She refused. Things got a little weird when I asked her why she couldn't go to the door. 
"His fiancé might answer."

His WHAT?

Oh, Did I not mention he's getting married in two days?"

No, no you did not. If so, I never would've supported this. I told this friend I didn't think God would give her direction on how to break up a couple so close to marriage. Hell, I was under the assumption the guy was SINGLE! Not 48 hrs away from marriage! She admitted to me she hoped the letter would break them up. 
I'm angry at this point and told her "just get it done and let's go." 
She left the letter on what she was "pretty sure" was his vehicle after about a half hour of hesitation. 

I got home and things were never the same with that friend. I never trusted her again. The friendship finally ran it course and I haven't seen or spoken to this friend in years. I think about that bride and groom often, though. I wonder what they must've thought reading that letter. I have no clue what it said, the friend refused to tell me. I just know she believed it was "from God" and she thought the ex would stop the marriage- a crucial part she left out when she asked me to drive her, which also was done with ulterior motives. "He might recognize my car. He might even check the cameras in the parking lot." 

What the fuck?

I know two things today: 
That letter changed nothing. 
That girl is still single.

This may have been the start of my deconstructing. I saw and was tricked into being part of a stupid scheme when I should have known better. It's been almost 20 years since this happened and I still look back at this situation with so much regret. 

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